Jenny, a 67-year-old client from my group, came to me feeling both excited and completely overwhelmed. She was ready to find love again, but the idea of navigating online dating – and all the technology that came with it – felt intimidating.
“I haven’t dated in decades,” she told me, “and now I’m supposed to swipe, upload, and message like a teenager?”
Sound familiar?
If you’re a woman over 60 and thinking about dating online, it’s totally normal to wonder: Do I need to be tech-savvy to actually meet someone?
The truth is: you don’t need to be a tech expert. But a little confidence with the basics can go a long way in helping you feel more in control – and more successful – on your path to love.
So, if the tech part has been holding you back, you’re not alone – and you’re more capable than you might think.
And these 6 simple tips will help you feel more confident (not overwhelmed) about dating online.
Tip #1: You Don’t Have to Know It All – Just Enough
You don’t need to master every app or tool. But knowing how to:
- Send and check email
- Use a web browser to log into dating sites like Match or Our Time
- Download an app like Bumble
- Take and upload photos
- Save and manage passwords
can make the whole process easier and more empowering.
Many of my clients have picked up these skills as they went. One woman told me, “I didn’t grow up with this stuff, but I’m doing it – and it feels good.”
Tip #2: Choose the Right Platform for You
My clients have had success with:
- Match – Men are more serious about finding relationships, and you can use it on your browser or in an app on your phone.
- Bumble – It has plenty of men in their 50s and 60s, and women get to make the first move.
Check out our list at The Top 5 Best Dating Sites for Seniors.
Tip #3: Know How to Create and Update Your Profile
This is your chance to show who you are – and you don’t need to overcomplicate it.
Make sure you can:
- Upload 2–5 recent photos (including a smiling headshot and one full-body image).
- Write a short, friendly bio that reflects who you are and what you’re looking for.
- Update your profile as your preferences or goals evolve.
If it’s easier, write your profile on your computer first then copy and paste it into the app later.
Your profile doesn’t need to be perfect. Just honest, warm, and true to you.
Tip #4: Messaging Isn’t Complicated (Really!)
You don’t have to be clever or polished. The best connections come from genuine, kind conversations.
You’ll want to know how to:
- Read and respond to messages.
- Ask simple questions to get to know someone.
- Block or report anyone who feels off.
You’re in charge of who you engage with – and who you don’t.
Tip #5: Spotting Red Flags Is Part of the Process
Online safety is part of online dating. It helps to know how to:
- Watch for red flags like someone rushing to move off the app.
- Protect your personal info (never share your address or finances).
- Use blocking and reporting features when needed.
If something feels off, trust your gut.
Tip #6: Video or Phone Chats Are Optional
I encourage my clients to meet for a casual coffee sooner rather than later. It’s the best way to find out if there’s a real connection – otherwise you could end up wasting time on endless messages and phone calls with the wrong person. Something that can happen if you spend too much time talking before you meet.
Still, some women feel better easing in with a quick phone or video chat. If that’s you, here’s what to know:
- Use Zoom, FaceTime, or the app’s video feature.
- Find a quiet spot with good lighting.
- Keep it short and don’t try and vet someone using technology – get to the meet and greet to figure that out.
You don’t have to use the phone or video – but it’s there if it helps you feel more confident.
Need a Little Extra Help?
You don’t have to figure this out alone. If you’re feeling stuck, try one of these:
- Ask your adult children or grandkids to walk you through it – they often love helping!
- Reach out to a tech-savvy friend.
- Check out free library or community center classes.
- Search YouTube for simple how-to videos (like “how to set up a dating profile on Match or Bumble”).
You don’t have to figure this out alone. That’s why I created an amazing group program that’s helped women over 50 find real, lasting love – often when they thought it might be too late.
Jenny was one of them. Not long ago, she felt just as overwhelmed and uncertain as you might feel right now. But with the right support, she took it one step at a time – and today, she’s in a wonderful relationship with a man who truly cherishes her.
Her story is just one example of what’s possible when you have the right support – and I’d love to offer that to you, too.
If you’re curious whether my program might be a fit, just email me at [email protected], and we can set up a time to talk and explore what’s possible for you.
Let’s Have a Conversation:
What dating apps have you used? Were they easy or difficult to navigate? Do you feel confident using technology to look for dates?
